Infertility and Pregnancy Loss
“It’s been three years, so when are you guys going to have kids? What are you waiting for?”
“Don’t worry, you just have to relax and stop thinking about it, you’ll get pregnant in no time.”
“Consider yourself lucky that you have no crying baby to keep you up at night!”
“We didn’t invite you to the brunch because we were all bringing our babies and we didn’t want you to feel sad, we were just thinking of you.”
“Hey, look on the bright side, it’s not cancer.”
When it comes to infertility and pregnancy loss, it’s amazing how our loved ones, friends, and even well-meaning strangers, get it exactly wrong. While there may be those in our lives who comfort and empathize, others’ efforts often show up as disconnecting and wounding, causing more suffering in an already insufferable situation.
What is often assumed a natural step in the progression of life, can instead feel jarring, punitive, unbelievable, and unbearable. While medical technology has made enormous strides, growing exponentially since more than forty years ago when the first baby was born through in vitro fertilization, understanding of the psychological toll has lagged far behind. We want to change that.
Trained in matters of fertility and grief, we will listen to your reproductive story and bear witness to your struggle. We can help address the emotional, relational, ethical, and moral dilemmas surrounding decisions about building your family. Some of us have been there as well, and are all too familiar with the intricacies and complexities making every person’s situation unique.